Y’all, have you heard of Kon Mari? Its a method of organizing and cleaning your home, and it is magical! (which is probably why she named her book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up“)
Many of you know that several months ago we had our third baby. What a joyful blessing he has been! Truly, he’s the happiest little soul I’ve ever met. He has brought such a light into our family. And with any big life change, oh how I’ve found my plate full. Too full. I knew this would be the case and stepped away from non-essential things in my life for a time, like blogging and actively increasing my essential oil business, among other things.
But during this break and time for readjusting, I still found myself struggling to keep my house clean. And I found myself drowning in stuff. Stuff was stressing me out, man! I felt claustrophobic and agitated. Minimalist living was calling my name.
I’ve loved the idea of simple, minimalism for a long time, and I thought I was doing a pretty good job. But there’s nothing like a life altering event to really shake things up and wake you up to reality. I think that there were a few things holding me back from really embracing minimalism up until now. One was that I felt I needed to hang on to things “just in case” I might need them later. As a lover of DIY and frugality, you can see how this was a hang up for me.
The second reason is one I think was actually bigger for me, and that was the impression that to live a minimalist lifestyle, I’d have to suffer without modern comforts I love — like indoor plumbing, haha! The whole tiny house movement is a good example of that – I would be so unhappy in a tiny house! I love that so many people are drawn to that, but it’s not for me (I could write an entire post on why, maybe I will later). But anyway, I’m an all or nothing kind of person, and so I had this impression of minimalism as a tiny house, outdoor composting toilet, kind of life. And whooooaaa nelly, that is NOT me. So I never fully embraced minimalism. And maybe I never will entirely, but when I read Marie Kondo’s book, my eyes were opened to a better way for me to look at minimalism and simple living.
I could lay out her method, but I won’t, I think you need to read her book. But I will tell you her core principle, and that is, only keep things in your home (and your life) that spark JOY in your heart. Not, toss out everything you haven’t used in 6 months, not store your stuff in this way and it will make more space, nothing like that. It really comes down to keeping what really, truly, sparks joy in you — and removing everything else.
You guys, this has been so amazing for my life as a homemaker. I’m still in the process, but as I have used her method, can I tell you this? My house stays cleaner, it’s much easier (and faster) to pick up, and I have a greater sense of calm, peace, and joy in my home that couldn’t be here before because it was drowning in clutter and noise. I was freed to toss out and donate a ton, and I’m committed to only bringing things into my home and my life that bring me joy from now on.
And you know what else? This physical transformation of our home is impacting other areas of our lives as well. The kids argue less, I’m more patient (most of the time ;)), I find it easier to stick to my daily routine because I’m not getting distracted, we sit down and read more, the kids are becoming more polite, etc. Like, seriously, it all started with taking control of my house and getting it in order, and now that is spilling over into other parts of my life, and I just adore that!
I’m not a perfect example of minimalist living. My house still get’s messy, and I still have some clutter I need to remove. I’m striving for a more minimalist lifestyle though, and the results of this effort have been fantastic for our family.
So, thank you SO much Mari Kondo. I will treasure your book always. It opened my eyes to a better way and it’s changing my life so much for the better!